EQ back in the day wasn't -as- bad starting out because more than likely you had a few people next to you who were also dead and memming spells. You could share what little bits of knowledge you had picked up from the day before or discuss how you just learned to make a hot-key or a macro.
That brings back memories of sitting around the fire dancers with other newish Vah Shirs in Shadeweavers Thicket. Mem'ing spells, throwing the occasional heal, sharing food. Ah those were those days. And I DON'T miss them much
Welcome to the game, Wymyn. Sounds like you are actually learning it like a lot of us did, and maybe learning it better since you are asking for advice. Good for you! I was afraid of everyone and everything my first month or so, and nearly didn't come back after beta. Glad I did as the people are great and the game has been fun on many different levels.
And I learned something from you - I had no idea that a necro could walk around Qeynos without getting killed, talking to Paladins no less!!!